• LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    Well ideally misandry would never be allowed to exist even in a post patriarchal society. But it doesn’t exist now, it is hypothetical.

    The ruling class is only men, it is exclusive to men, the ruling class holds disproportionate power in society. The ruling class is the principle group that benefits from power structures, like misogyny racism and homophobia. The ruling class is not disadvantaged as a class in any way, they are the apex of social economic and political power. They have supported institutions like slavery and patriarchy as means of reinforcing their power by stratifing society to benefit themselves. The ruling class has no power structure targeting men as a class.

    Toxic masculinity largely functions by excusing the violence caused by men against women and minorities. It does not exist as a system that commits acts of violence and discrimination against men as a class. It has a side effect of discouraging men from being things that are deemed effeminate, like emotional intelligence and empathy. Which is absolutely a real problem that is important to talk about. It promotes men as being free from the consequences of comitting acts of violence against women and minorities. It does have side effects for men, but it exists as a means for men to hurt those other groups and not be held accountable for it. Rape culture is a significant part of toxic masculinity. And the ruling class benefits the most from this.

    I’m getting tired of reiterating the same points to the same inquiries though, so please feel free to read what I’ve already said if you’re curious how I think.

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      1 year ago

      I’m really disappointed in your inability to confront your own biases. You set definitions, I meet them, and then you just move the goal posts.

      How you call Bob at the hardware store “the ruling class” is BEYOND me. 99% of men don’t have any sort of ruling authority. So you’ve created a term that holds men to a level of responsibility they don’t have, and then you use that to disqualify the actuality of misandry in society… Fuuuck…

      Thank you for taking the time to lay out your biases for me. You’ve really helped me breakdown this shit, and I appreciate that. Sorry for any anxiety I’ve given you, but seriously… you need to expand your perspective outside of feminist rhetoric.

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        I never called Bob at the hardware store ruling class 🙃 but the ruling class is patriarchal and composed of men. The ruling class benefits from men being treated as superior to women. They are the apex of social power structures. There is no social power structure that disadvantages specifically them, there is no social power structure against men as a class.

        You still don’t understand what misogyny is or how it is different from any social pressure against men. I’m sorry guy, you and everyone man you know did not get sexually harassed by men on the street when you were 12. Every woman experiences misogyny. Every woman suffers misogynistic violence. It affects all of us as a class of people at every level across society. Time for you to ask yourself what is preventing you from listening to the experiences of women who are suffering differently from you. I have expressed concern for men’s issues throughout my comments, just because there is no power structure creating those issues systemically and through institutions does not mean that they’re not important. Its false equivalence over and over again.

        It’s not my job to convince you of the way women are suffering and how that suffering is condoned and perpetuated by society. It’s your job to educate yourself on the way the marginalized suffer. With that said, I’m done answering questions and engaging with you. I’ve more than explained intersectionality to you already.

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          1 year ago

          I never called Bob at the hardware store ruling class 🙃 but the ruling class is patriarchal and composed of men.

          Okay… So previously in our discussion you dismissed systemic misandry, because “it’s not a power structure”.

          If Bob isn’t considered apart of the ruling class, then the oppression of Bob, and other men by the ruling class IS a power structure, and fits your definition of systemic misandry.

          And by all means you don’t have to engage with me. The only thing I’m really expecting you to teach me is the biases in your rhetoric, so no pressure.