What is it about the text messages and emails sent by older people that make me feel like I’m having a stroke?

Maybe they’re used to various shortcuts in their writing that they picked up before autocorrect became common, but these habits are too idiosyncratic for autocorrect to handle properly. However, that doesn’t explain the emails I’ve had to decipher that were typed on desktop keyboards. Has anyone else younger than 45 or so felt similarly frustrated with geriatrics’ messages?

@asklemmy

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    Gonna need some examples methinks. But the tendency to overuse ellipses is right tf up there

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      Yes! This is what I always associate with older folks texting or emailing. I use ellipses a fair bit for (my attempts at) comedic effect. Some older folks are using them on a whole different level, having this weird habit of ending sentences with them where most people would use a period or exclamation point. It can come off sounding very ominous.

      “Bill is coming over.”

      Okay, cool. Have fun with Bill.

      “Bill is coming over …”

      Grandpa, are you in trouble? What’s Bill going to do???

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        I’m old and i use ellipses frequently, but my family would understand that i mean -

        Bill is coming over and you know i hate that fucker so please call or stop by to save me if you don’t hear from me in a bit.

        I think your Grandpa is expecting you to infer something from the …

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          I think your Grandpa is expecting you to infer something from the …

          “What’s the matter?”

          Nothing, just letting you know…

          “Do you want me to come over?”

          No, Bill is coming already…

          “Oh, great! And?”

          Just letting you know…

          “Oh, ok. Have fun, then. Tell Bill I said hi!”

          Will do…if I remember…

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          I’m old and I use … to indicate that I’m gonna continue that sentence, but because I’m slow to write, I give you a chance to participate/continue. Especially if the sentence is going to be long.

          Bill is coming over…

          Well that nice.

          …but I can’t stand the fucker.

          Oh.

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          Well, I’m old-adjacent and I literally don’t think either of my grandpas so much as touched a cell phone or computer in their lives, but I get your point.

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        I saw some video where they explained boomers use the ellipses to indicate missing words? like they’re acknowledging that it’s a sentence fragment and not a complete sentence.

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          That’s actually how the comment above interpreted the ellipses. The difference is more, why the words are missing.

          The “modern” interpretation is that you are too annoyed or afraid to finish the sentence. In the sense of “son of a …” in case of annoyance.

          The “old” interpretation is either temporal (I’m not finished writing) or simply an acknowledgement that the fragment is just a fragment.

          So the modern reader will interpret much more context into the missing words, leading to the exchange above.

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          That kinda makes sense because that is the how it is intended to be used (from a punctuation perspective).

          el·lip·sis noun the omission from speech or writing of a word or words that are superfluous or able to be understood from contextual clues.

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            Hmm, I’d always understood ellipses to mean a thought was trailing off, or as a written indicator of someone thinking as if taking a pause while speaking.

            I was never taught that’s what it means, just seems that’s how most people use it.

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        I am a younger millennial. I use ellipses all the time tbh. But I never use them at the end of a sentence like that. I tend to use them in the middle of a sentence often to break it up if it seems to long and I don’t want the formality of a semicolon.

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      The thing with ellipses is… they make you sound… like you have lethargy… Either that… or extreme shyness… Whenever I see text with no other punctuation than ellipses…I always imagine… like I’m talking with Eeyore… from Winnie the Pooh…

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        For me it’s an old habit from IRC. Instead of sending 5/6/7 lines of text, I just cut it with … and continue typing on the same line. I could make complete sentences with capitals and periods but instant messaging is not a medium well suited for full sentences and paragraphs, so you get …

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      The related thing that I’ve seen a few times and never understood is “,”. What does an ellipsis of commas even mean?

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        Too blind to tell the difference on a phone keyboard, too vain to wear glasses / update prescription