I know you are salty about how you are getting treated over at GitHub, but you should look at it objectively, Blaze is clearly advocating that people join top instances that’s not lemmy.world or lemmy.ml, not nobody instances that only have 1-2 users. They certainly aren’t going offline as quickly as they come online.
I don’t believe they’re insinuating that you were the one that created the mistake. Rather, that you seem to be knowledgeable of the specific problem and may be the one most capable of fixing it. The two line fix may be obvious to you, but may not to the main Lemmy devs. Until phriskey got involved, a lot of db tuning was being avoided (they’re responsible for most of the big db improvements this version).
No, it’s everything to do about your personal treatment, stop deceiving yourself. Just because you claim you have autism doesn’t immediately grant you the right to be entitled. You don’t get your way so you spam create multiple issues to call out the developers, and you expect people to believe it isn’t personal for you?
If you aren’t happy with the Lemmy developers, fork the project, run your own fork, convince others to use your fork. It’s a FOSS world, no one has to do what you say, even if you claim to be autistic.
Entitled to what? free money? discount at the car wash? I see you like claiming things that I never said, who talked about deserving things or being entitled?
No, I never claimed that you said you were entitled. I claimed that you like using your autism as an excuse.
perhaps you do not grasp that autism impacts my writing and the level of pain I have in communicating, even this very comment. It causes me huge pain and suffering to have my brain touch the keyboard and compose English sentences.
See? Why make yourself suffer?
Maybe you lack compassion for my suffering and you are a bully.
Why do you deserve my compassion? You are literally hurting yourself by participating in discussions even when you claim, in your own words, “autism impacts my writing and the level of pain I have in communicating, even this very comment. It causes me huge pain and suffering to have my brain touch the keyboard and compose English sentences.”. If it hurts so much, get offline.
If you willingly hurt yourself, or your brain, conversing online, then you shouldn’t be using it as an excuse to get your point across. The advice was given, if it hurts, stop doing it, is that really that hard to explain?
If it helps clarify things for you, the person you are arguing with doesn’t understand what you are trying to say with regards to how autism informs your interactions with others online and is arguing against a point you aren’t trying to make. They are however entirely too dug into arguing against that point to easily and effectively get them to understand what you are actually saying and respond to that without the baggage of already deciding that they entirely disagree with you to the point they think they are entitled to be rude to you because you don’t agree with them.
The conversation you are in in this thread is more difficult than it ought to be and while some element of that may be due to your autism, there’s also a lot of failures from the other side of it making the conversation harder than it should be. At this point you are not being treated kindly and respectfully by the other person (because they are frustrated and handling it poorly.) Better to just disengage with them and shrug it off as a misunderstanding and bad behaviour not of your making as best as you are able to do so.
Isn’t there a logstream they could tap into to have a separate async tally going on instead of doing it synchronously? Probably a lot of things could be delegated to an async job performed when server load allows?
I know you are salty about how you are getting treated over at GitHub, but you should look at it objectively, Blaze is clearly advocating that people join top instances that’s not lemmy.world or lemmy.ml, not nobody instances that only have 1-2 users. They certainly aren’t going offline as quickly as they come online.
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Then go fix it and open a PR
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I don’t believe they’re insinuating that you were the one that created the mistake. Rather, that you seem to be knowledgeable of the specific problem and may be the one most capable of fixing it. The two line fix may be obvious to you, but may not to the main Lemmy devs. Until phriskey got involved, a lot of db tuning was being avoided (they’re responsible for most of the big db improvements this version).
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No, it’s everything to do about your personal treatment, stop deceiving yourself. Just because you claim you have autism doesn’t immediately grant you the right to be entitled. You don’t get your way so you spam create multiple issues to call out the developers, and you expect people to believe it isn’t personal for you?
If you aren’t happy with the Lemmy developers, fork the project, run your own fork, convince others to use your fork. It’s a FOSS world, no one has to do what you say, even if you claim to be autistic.
Telling someone “you claim you have autism” is extremely ableist to all disabled people.
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No, I never claimed that you said you were entitled. I claimed that you like using your autism as an excuse.
See? Why make yourself suffer?
Why do you deserve my compassion? You are literally hurting yourself by participating in discussions even when you claim, in your own words, “autism impacts my writing and the level of pain I have in communicating, even this very comment. It causes me huge pain and suffering to have my brain touch the keyboard and compose English sentences.”. If it hurts so much, get offline.
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If you willingly hurt yourself, or your brain, conversing online, then you shouldn’t be using it as an excuse to get your point across. The advice was given, if it hurts, stop doing it, is that really that hard to explain?
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If it helps clarify things for you, the person you are arguing with doesn’t understand what you are trying to say with regards to how autism informs your interactions with others online and is arguing against a point you aren’t trying to make. They are however entirely too dug into arguing against that point to easily and effectively get them to understand what you are actually saying and respond to that without the baggage of already deciding that they entirely disagree with you to the point they think they are entitled to be rude to you because you don’t agree with them.
The conversation you are in in this thread is more difficult than it ought to be and while some element of that may be due to your autism, there’s also a lot of failures from the other side of it making the conversation harder than it should be. At this point you are not being treated kindly and respectfully by the other person (because they are frustrated and handling it poorly.) Better to just disengage with them and shrug it off as a misunderstanding and bad behaviour not of your making as best as you are able to do so.
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What is a SQL trigger and why is it taking down servers? Do you know how to fix it?
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Isn’t there a logstream they could tap into to have a separate async tally going on instead of doing it synchronously? Probably a lot of things could be delegated to an async job performed when server load allows?
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Going with the flow is both ways. It’s a community project so everyone’s opinion matters, especially those who contribute PRs.