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Cake day: August 9th, 2023

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  • I have two small friend groups of four and in both is someone who often works weekend, so that’s always fun trying to plan something, let alone if I want to have both groups somewhere. It was honestly a miracle I could get all 6 of them in one place at the same time somewhat close to my birthday.


  • Same. Being undiagnosed autistic is horrifying in high school. I was chronically depressed and suicidal and everyone avoided me like the plague because I was weird as fuck and had no social skills. I did drop out at 17, then delivered mail for a few years, then after I got diagnosed and put on proper meds went and got my diploma in adult education at 24, which was super chill. Ironically I decided to become a teacher, in part because I want to contribute to making school a little less horrifying to kids like I was. And the 7 years of delay ended up being a huge benefit, because I can stand in front 25 13 year-olds confidently at 28, but I could never have done that at 21.





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    9 months ago

    I’m sorry but you’re being a child. ‘Well, if everyone apparently hates hearing me talk so much, I’ll just say nothing at all, just to please everyone even if it kills me inside!’ My guy. If multiple people at different points in your life with different relationships all say the same thing to you, it’s probably true. I know it’s hard to accept but you’re not accurately seeing what is happening in these social situations because you have a certain view of yourself and how you behave doesn’t match with that so you ignore it.

    I speak from experience. I’m autistic, it took a long time for me to learn to communicate properly. I had to be told by multiple people who were close to me at mutlple parts of my life that I was selfish in conversation and only talked about myself. At first I was very offended and indignant and denied it. Those people stopped being friends with me, but years later I realized they were right. Still, when I’m not trying I slip into just talking about myself. It took my brother and his wife saying it to me again 2 years ago. I apologized to them and have started paying attention more, and it makes a world of difference.

    Let other people talk, ask them questions, no matter how brilliant or interesting you think you are. You, in your childish indignation, think that being more empathetic in conversation will have a negative impact on you, but the people around you will like you way more and be more willing to talk with you, which actually has a positive impact on you. You know, I have students who are also super offended every time you discipline them because it’s sooo unfair and they didn’t do anything wrong, but it happens with every single teacher. It’s not them, it’s you. Try to be open to the fact that sometimes, other people have a more accurate view of your behavior. If they all say the same thing, listen.


  • SolarNialamide@lemm.eetoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldWhoops!
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    9 months ago

    That never happens to me because I’m too autistic to be aware of my own facial expressions. I didn’t even realize until a friend I made at 20 or 21 told me I could go into theater because I was so expressive with my face. That gave me a bit of a mini existential crisis. My face has been loudly communicating things to everyone all this time without my knowledge or consent? Wtf


  • One of my cats used to be this way. She was also a former stray, so I assumed it was from that. It got worse when I started feeding her at specific times because she got too fat. I had a problem when I got a new cat though because he wouldn’t eat everything in one go but I also couldn’t free feed because then my girl would just eat everything. I gave her a dewormer (which I never did because they’re indoor only cats) and while she did have some problems with diarrhea for a little while, the food obsession is totally gone now. So it may be worth it to see if there’s an underlying issue at play. It’s normal for former strays to be like this for a while but after a few months or years they should learn to trust there’ll always be food.



  • Agreed. It’s not like not understanding technology is a causal consequence of age. Like you hit 55 and suddenly you don’t get it anymore. My dad is a baby boomer and he’s always had an interest in and thus was and still is good with computers, both hardware and software. That doesn’t go away. He’s less adept with smartphones though because he views them through a very utilitarian lense and doesn’t really experiment and thus doesn’t learn much about them. And he’s literally never made any social media account because he doesn’t give a fuck.





  • SolarNialamide@lemm.eetoMemes@sopuli.xyzNamaste.
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    10 months ago

    Not literally that many beers, but the equivalent in other types of alcohol, for sure. The trick is to use a fuckton of amphetamines so you don’t notice how drunk you are so you can extra destroy your body and brain. But nothing the multivitamin can’t fix!