Stop trying to make fetch happen.

Not sure if they get much hate but they sure get a lot of shit

I see you’re getting a lot of answers from both sides of the spectrum. But if you’re struggling, I want to help.

Being in a behavior health ward is good for when you can’t help yourself anymore, or need significant treatment that’s difficult to handle via outpatient (like electroconvulsive treatments). It’s not like a hospital stay where you walk out cured of some infection. It’s more like a stay in the hospital after a huge car accident. They’ll get you stable, they’ll set you up with a therapist for long-term recovery, and meds to manage the symptoms.

You’re right that talk doesn’t fix money problems and things like that. But what it does do is help you keep from suffering alone AND it teaches you how to manage the feelings in a healthier way. That can be the difference between falling apart in the face of money trouble and having the skills to focus on finding a solution–or even just a way to survive.

The thing about depression is that it makes everything feel worthless and hopeless. You have to trust that you can’t properly interpret whether a solution will work for you, and that the medical experts you align with are going to have a clearer view of what will help bring you out of the depression.

That doesn’t mean all therapists are good. Or that a good therapist for someone else will fit you. But those are problems you can start to manage once you’ve taken a few steps toward recovery (assuming they turn out to be problems at all).

I’ve been in therapy for over a decade, on meds for just as long, and once in a ward for a week. Does it suck to be “trapped” in the unit? Yep. It’s not a party in there. I don’t ever want to go back. But when I did go in, it was because I felt like I legitimately couldn’t take care of myself or see a way forward. In that regard, it saved me. So if my biggest complaint is that I felt stuck for a few days, well… so be it.

But there are many other options before being admitted. There are social workers, psychologists, psychiatrists, intensive outpatient programs, ketamine therapy, and more. You may never need to be admitted at all if you can get to treatment before you’re completely overwhelmed. Sometimes the solution is incredibly simple, like getting more vitamin D and a proper sleep schedule. Sometimes it takes a little ongoing medicine with weekly talk sessions. Sometimes it’s more. But whatever it is, it’s worth it. You can be happy in tough situations, but if you’re depressed you can’t be happy even in good situations. And that’s no way to live.

Long story short: if you’re depressed you aren’t equipped to judge whether a solution will work without trying it, you have very little to lose by trying therapy, and the potential gains are the difference between misery and a fulfilling life. A mental institution is an extreme measure that’s only part of a longer-term solution, and you may never need it. But it can be the literal difference between life and death if you’re at the end of your rope.

It blows my mind that so many questions in this community could be instantly answered by Google. Just typing “whinging” gives its definition and identifies it as British.

The question wasn’t stupid. But OP was too lazy to even try and do their own research. Which ironically resulted in more work for them.

It’s not necessarily lazy. If I want to go back to a particular post I saw on page 1 when I’m on page 2, but it was knocked off the front page, how would I find it? It’s no longer on page 1, so back would miss it. I’d have to go to 1 and then back again to 2 to find a post that moved.

It gets even more complicated when the algorithm also changes post order.

Sometimes simple with minor inconvenience is the best option.

I think the WHO has slightly more credibility than any random Lenny user.

And no, your attitude is not called for. There’s a legitimate body that had called the safety of aspartame into question. Whether it meets your standards is personal. But it’s poor form to attack others for citing credible sources (a chemistry teacher is worth following up on for chem matters, which, in this case–again–led directly to a statement by the WHO).

You have simultaneously said it’s both been studied excessively and acknowledged the WHO has said it needs more study.

Rando vs WHO. WHO wins. Aspartame may be dangerous. And, incidentally, so may working as a dry cleaner. Which seems like a good warning to put out there. Thank you angry, rude person trolling this thread.

Edit: just googled “cancer rates among dry cleaners” and wow… it seems a number of studies have demonstrated elevated cancer rates among dry cleaners. Here are a couple:

Sweden study

St Louis study

I love the discussion here as to possible reasons why the labeling is different.

That said, there’s a very good chance it’s just because the initial version had 3, got translated, then someone added a 4th item and it never got translated.

The WHO is declaring it a possible carcinogen. https://www.reuters.com/business/healthcare-pharmaceuticals/whos-cancer-research-agency-say-aspartame-sweetener-possible-carcinogen-sources-2023-06-29/

Edit: also, telling someone they should feel bad and stupid (along with the other language you used) is a bit rough for a discussion on artificial sweeteners. Especially as OP cited the source, made it clear they had no direct knowledge of the situation, and–it turns out–a major health body has cited potential dangers.

This is a good opportunity for us to be a little more civil.

OP is saying they’ve heard people claim it but hasn’t seen evidence. They’re wondering if anybody has some, because otherwise they’re treating it as a rumor.

Ad algorithms might be using more complicated analytic combinations than just “similar sites” as a qualifier. Maybe you’re a fan of a product or show (or combination thereof) that typically map to right-wing readers or likely converts.

If they’re getting (just making this up) a 5% click-throughs rate with this targeting vs 2% with just similar-site matching, then they probably don’t care about a high rate of views by left-wing users.

Nobody is recommending OP solely drink soda for hydration. The point was just that caffeine is not a real issue for hydration.

If we’re going to give safety warnings for caffeinated drinks–as though OP were unaware that caffeine over consumption is not magically avoided if you’re trying to hydrate–let’s also advise them to take reasonably sized sips so they don’t choke and to drink from clean containers so they don’t get sick.

If you’re reading this OP, virtually everything you drink is hydrating. Milk. Coffee. Soda. Juice. Tea. If you’re chugging oil-based liquids, those aren’t hydrating. But I’m guessing they aren’t a major part of your diet.

They are definitely bad for your teeth. My dentist/wife does not like how much I drink them, but since she works on me for free I don’t see a downside

I haven’t studied this either, but I think it’ll give you superpowers when the carbonic acid mixes with sunlight to create blue kryptonite.

Check out pandemic. It’s a game where everyone wins or everyone loses.

Ah yes. The game of everlasting friendship.

You blocked my road! I needed to build on that spot! I’m trapped! You’re picking me again for the baron? You do realize if you trade with them they’re going to win, right?

C. This is also on an ICU setting, with (presumably) significant treatment protocols in effect. You shouldn’t assume it applies to other situations.

A. Lowering a fever is not the same as no fever B. the study concluded taking Tylenol did not affect number of ICU days. It did not conclude that fevers are not an important part of the immune system.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/treating-fever-in-adults#:~:text=Fever is one of the,such as viruses or bacteria.