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  • Younger than 45

    Oh OK that actually makes sense.

    45 year olds and above are digital immigrants. In short, they had an off-line childhood and an online adulthood. They have different speech and writing patterns to you because they learnt and communicated in a different way to you.

    Assuming you’re under 45, this won’t make sense, because you’ve never experienced a world which doesn’t have this sort of interaction. You’re a digital native, digital tech has always been there.

    In twenty years time, children born or educated after the advent of chat gpt will have the same problem understanding you. The way you write, post and interact will seem clunky and old fashioned. It’s already happening!

    The wonderful thing about humanity, tho, is that we adapt and adopt! Consider this - everyone over the age of 50 had to learn something completely new to them in order to be able to communicate with you like this. They used to just talk or write letters. That’s it.







  • I spent a bit of time going through your post history to get an understanding of your background

    In short I think your life experiences mean you’ve lost all trust in men. Not just your direct experiences but what you’ve observed in others.

    As a result you enter each interaction assuming the worst. Every male social worker you engage with will confirm this pattern because that’s what you’re looking for. The - ah fuck here we go again - feeling.

    For them, and I don’t expect you to have empathy for them, this is what they live - the outcomes of other mens behaviours. But - they were there and they tried. That is something.

    You have changed quite a lot of your original post.



  • I can empathise with Nancy!

    My observation - part of the point of mindful meditation is accepting that there is the thought. Thoughts will come, thoughts will go.

    There will be days where your mind absolutely spams your meditation. There will be days where you start to fall asleep. There will be days where the final timer goes before you’ve been able to concentrate on your breath.

    That’s the point. The meditation is your time to do nothing else. There is nothing you need to do. Just be, and breathe.


  • Very small is 3 people. It’s a small company.

    My experience working in a dev company exactly that size -

    Pros

    Less dead wood (people not carrying their own weight).

    Everyone knows everyone well, it’s a tight team

    Think it, do it - quick to develop and respond

    Less pressure

    Feels a bit like a family

    More chilled than corporate esp. working from home

    More support of networking and linking up with industry peers

    Higher degree of trust and support

    Way more latitude to do what you want to do

    Easy to influence senior leadership

    Can offer things like equity etc

    If you’re a high performer you will be noticed

    Way less red tape

    A lot more trust

    Company can prosper if everyone works hard

    Cons

    Company favourites

    Can be quite political, although far less so than some large organisations I’ve worked for

    Less cover if you’re on leave or similar

    Harder to get some things done if money is needed (lower budgets and thinner reserves)

    Lower remuneration, fewer levers to pull to get a salary increase

    More drama with paychecks etc

    Fewer higher skilled people to learn from

    Culture can go sideways quickly

    Nowhere near the same level of support and benefits provided by the big companies

    Tend not to attract the best and brightest talent

    Comoany more impacted by economic conditions

    It also greatly depends on you and your preferred style. Some people just outright don’t like working for big businesses and prefer smaller gigs.