Monkeytennis

I don’t mind one dog in an office, but how does that scale? Even two dogs feels like a bad idea, let alone multiple. I agree that if you have to leave your dog alone for 6hrs, you probably shouldn’t own a dog.

As for restaurants, you can’t be comparing dogs to small humans. It’s more appropriate to compare dogs to other animals - should I be allowed to bring my cat, or an obedient pet rat or snake to a restaurant?

It’s bizarre how dogs have this universal free pass.

Totally agree. I feel bad for this dog, it needs more space and stimulation

Live in a quiet neighborhood and some bellend decides to get a huge German shepherd. Has to build a high fence to ensure the thing doesn’t jump their 6’ garden wall, plus it barks at everything, all day. The kids in the house nextdoor are scared of it, it pulls and barks constantly when out for walks and if it ever got loose, it would cause chaos.

But apparently they’re all soft loving creatures on the inside, and more importantly, said bellend feels like a big man when out for a walk.

More breeds should be muzzled and restricted from residential areas.

IKR, seems way more common for men to do this, especially when kids come along. If I were the one bearing children, there’s no way I’d do it unmarried.

Coddling has the negative connotation - to consistently overprotect. Occasional spoiling is an entirely different and good thing.

You missed my point. I’m ignoring nothing, I’m suggesting OP seek out men who will be supportive, because they’re not hard to find.

I’m certain I could find studies as proof, but don’t we all already know this to be true?

Plenty of men can deal with this, and plenty of women can’t. It’s not helpful to see this as a gender thing, you’ll only feel more alienated. You might want to seek out some new social connections?

I’ve been though divorce recently and despite being very amicable, it’s caused me to reset - some things broke, but being more emotionally open has been one of the good things. I’m still pretty reserved but a few things are different:

• I care a lot less about conforming to “ideals” or how anyone judges me. That means I no longer feel the fear and second guess everything I say.
• When appropriate, I ask people - especially other men - how they’re doing and gently push for a genuine answer. No one’s reacted negatively to that, so far.
• With my kids, I simply do the opposite to my father. I tell them I love them, I take an interest in them, and I take their feelings seriously. I don’t coddle them, but I want them to feel secure and confident in talking to me. They’re still young, so we’ll see.
• During work 1:1s, I take a genuine interest in people, most will subtly drop hints that they had a bad weekend or are feeling tired or stressed. I used to gloss over that, now I’ll ask about it and say I’m happy to listen. A surprising number will go on to share, with the bonus that it builds trust.
• If someone asks how I am, I won’t lay it all out for them, but I’ll be honest. Most people empathise and tell you they’ve been through similar. It’s never been awkward, and I’ve found out nearly everyone I know is pretty anxious and is going through difficult stuff.

As an aside, I never watched much porn because I found it so cold and alienating. It’s interesting that you found the opposite. Anyway, I’ll stop there and wish you well!

I’m about half way in, and the acting has been patchy - the guys playing Trumbull and Sims are bad, but when contrasted with Tim Robbins and Rebecca Ferguson, they come off a lot worse.

Am I missing something, or would basically any old smartphone work in place of this? I have a Pixel which sits in a cradle and takes care of anything I’d use this for. I guess a physical button or dial might be nice, but I have a volume dial on the car dash.

Seems plainly obvious that it’ll require a sub. It’s a Spotify box.

It’s the least offensive type of advertising I see day to day. I couldn’t care less how my listening data is shared, and I don’t understand the zero tolerance some people have for adverts - it’s not all bad.

If they ramp up the adverts, people will vote with their feet.

That’s the general public for you. It’s why we’re fucked.

I’ve been cutting my own for years, never considered using a taper guard. Hmm.

Same here. WTF do I do with a history degree… Joined a helpdesk because I liked fixing tech, transitioned to web development because that was more fun, spent years enjoying learning and progressing, then moved into UX because that was more rewarding (and less stressful).

I’m glad I gravitated towards IT because it gave me a lot of freedom and choice - and the money was always good.

I’d be careful with the “follow your hobbies” advice, I’ve known a lot of frustrated people who feel they’ve wasted years studying / trying to get a job in video games, acting, that sort of thing. Seems you have to be in the top 1% and have a ton of luck or connections to stand a chance.

I agree, ghosting is necessary in many situations. Am a guy, have reluctantly ghosted both men and women (from a casual friend / professional point of view, rather than romantic) not because I think I’ll be yelled at (or worse) but if the vibe is wrong, it’s self protection - I don’t want to engage with them, full stop.

I will pay full price, day one

Nothing wrong with either, though I can’t speak for Italian pizza cutting techniques.

It’s still pretty unusual to offer a 10yo a brew with his roast dinner. I’m sure my friends found it strange that we drank coffee before bed, but there you go.

No judgement here :D

It’s that small moment when you realise other people do things differently.

I remember being a bit horrified with the amount of handling that goes on with pizza+scissors. Guess I was considered one of the family…

This reminds me of staying overnight at a friend’s house when I was a kid, and discovering a slightly sinister family habit, like cutting pizza with scissors or everyone drinking hot tea with dinner