forget the hair, but the questions must be precise and well-formed :D

seriously (ish), if the hairdresser holds my hair 2cm away from the skin and asks if this length is ok, and their finger is like 2cm thick, i don’t know if they mean 2 or 4.

Oddly specific example, but I believe you.

Okay this is gonna be the last thing I say on this - a lot of the struggle that women today face comes from the idea that women only exist in relation to something or someone else, like children or a partner.

The thing is, in so many ways we all only exist in relation to each other. So you’re on to something, not necessarily exclusive to sex or gender, but yes that part is hard. And much worse because it also means that others are going to try and shape that relation and the power is barely ever balanced. It does help to realize that not all people are like that, but these things are really knowable, and everyone’s situation is unique.

Eg, your role is to start a family, wear makeup and take care of your appearance so that you are perceived as attractive and therefore valued

Honestly, that part is infuriating to me as well. and I hate what it does to women. My personal feelings about what makes a woman attractive / free are my own, but I find it somewhat offensive how boldly people make assumptions about it and even start to normalize or ostracize others for following standards.

Not sure if we can do about it in general, but I do appreciate people who don’t just bow down to the masses.

the work hasn’t been done to show this is the sole cause

sure but why is it relevant? OP isn’t saying that it is the sole cause.

careful with the straw, you might accidently build a straw man out of it :)

maybe I’m too much of an engineering brain, but I just want to cry when they put fingers in my hair and ask “about this long”?

Like, I know it’s not a rocket science but come on, that’s like 800% error bar.

Once, a lady had enough emotional intelligence to explain herself whether she meant “cut above the finger” or “leave below the finger”. I will never go to any other hairdresser (luckily she’s much younger than me so we could actually pull it off). I ain’t got time for these axe throwers.

that should be the price of two visits and two mirrors.

…and a few drops of your own blood, I assume, but nothing more.

you can just say “shorter than the top”.

does this mean anything, though?

I mean, could someone even possibly say “longer than the top” and be taken seriously?

(And no, no no, stop right there----don’t even think of reminding me that mullets exist.)

Basically a cigar butt with eyes, shut up it works for me.

I was not planning to comment (i am no better) but even if I was, this line pretty much disabled me for straight 5 minutes.

I’m a ROFLcopter now…

They say, 30 is the age where you have to decide which one you like more: tying your shoelaces or hamburgers.

I chose the latter.

Now I’m almost 44 and even undoing them feels too hard. 🙃

I thought those nursery rhymes were because of the cat.

gorilla slippers

Good dog, those things are freaking scary.

hoser has a new video on how Saudi Arabia is getting ready for that part.

I would not say “not believe too much in your efforts”, I think the tendency to simply scale down enthusiasm can be toxic in its own way.

I like to remind myself of how Václav Havel said it:

Hope is not the conviction that something will turn out well but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out.

Yes, being enthusiastic about false goals can lead to devastating results. Being hopeful by realizing that your work does make sense even if you won’t necessarily see results of it, that’s much more sustainable source of motivation.

Also, remember that no matter how it turns out you will learn something on the path. If anything, this is one of the “certain” parts.

Remember, it’s not about filtering out robots, it’s about filtering out dangerous (as in spam, malware, etc.) things.

I mean, If you’re reeeeeeally good and reeeeeeally precise and reeeeally fast … then maybe you’re as dangerous as the robot. Maybe it’s just safer to keep you out. 🙃

Isn’t it kind of what Liberapay is doing?

Maybe I’m missing the point, but if you want to have union of maintainers/contributors, please go ahead, just be careful with assuming it can actually address the problem. You will never have any substantial percentage of maintainers. That’s kind of the main point of FLOSS: people do what they want to do, where they want to do.

If you want to collect data about what is used – with the goal of “not forgetting the little project with the library”, that’s also great but that’s going to be a lot of work and might be impossible to reflect. I can’t think about solution that would not be platform-specific.

Don’t get me wrong, uniting FLOSS developers along common goals, technology domains or philosophy, building communities and providing support systems is an absolute wonderful thing to do, even if you end up having what might feel like just a few projects.

Today I learned:

• curl development cycle has a cooldown after a freeze.

How cool is that?

activitywatch looks really good. thanks for the link!

rescuetime looks nice but is actually mac/win only.

I heard of Toggl but I can’t wrap my head around how – a web-based app can even know what i’m working on – in other tabs or outside browser (which for me is 90% of meaningful work)?

well but doesn’t that beat the purpose of using the blockchain in the first place? why not just store everything in the auxiliary database?