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Cake day: November 19th, 2023

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  • I’d describe it as sort of 3 layers. The first is practical/everyday things, which are mostly much nicer than being alone, but require attentiveness and communication (learn what your SO doesn’t like doing, and do it. Learn what things are work together projects, and what things are stay out of my way type things for each of you, probably other aspects too) - but once you know how to take care of each other, almost everything is less work, takes less time, and costs less money. Cooking, laundry, cleaning, gardening, repairing things, painting the house are all improved. Decorating and having guests over are harder, at least for me. You have to not fall into the trap of taking the things they do for granted, even when those things are routine.

    The second layer I’d describe is lust/romance, which is sort of easier, except that you must avoid letting things coast too long. You have to dedicate time and effort to discovering new things about each other, and new things you enjoy together. You should still be dating, no matter how long it’s been, and ideally you should both be planning things most of the time. In my relationship, this is usually 1-2 things per month, each.

    The final layer is the emotional/support layer. Almost any time, my wife can seek comfort and support from me in a variety of ways for all kinds of things, and I get the same from her. All the big problems in life are easier when you can share them, so here the benefits are huge. This is the only thing I got basically none of from having roommates or a best friend, or dating. For my situation, there’s basically no downside to this.







  • I tried typing this once before, but kept running into situations were I’m not sure if I’m just being condescending. These are the most obvious reasons this is a selfish and self destructive perspective:

    When you are old, children today will be the only people able to take care of you. Optimizing society so that there are many more old people than young people will create unfair burden on the next generation, and probably lead to horrific suffering for millions of people (probably including you).

    Children are best raised by stable, happy, healthy families, and they are more productive members of society (and happier) when that happens. Because we want the next generation to be happy and productive, aiding today’s parents helps us all tomorrow. Adding financial strain causes many negative effects for families, and therefor for children, and therefor for society at large.

    Unless you are extremely lucky, you probably faced issues in your own childhood that would have been lessened if your parents had more money. Wishing the same, but worse on the next generation is twisted.



  • The red lights and “Overheight Must Turn” sign are meant to do that here. There’s not much room before the bridge, so the warning system scans for tall vehicles and tries to tell drivers with lights and an LED sign.

    The road is run between some obstacles, and it’s tightly constrained in every direction, by the railway, a sewer trunk, and the other road. Despite the crashes, this may still be the best option, with the next option up to not have the road there at all.




  • As your cardiovascular system improves, you typically take fewer, larger breaths at rest, so improving your ability to breath reduces the number of steps you’ll typically take. On the other hand, most people become able to walk more steps after walking consistently.

    Unless you’re handicapped, bedridden, very old, or otherwise prevented by health related circumstances from doing so, you can make more with steps.



  • I’d rather have retailers and manufacturers agree on a way to start prices high, then bring the price down towards the target MSRP every time the item is back in stock. That prevents scalping, let’s consumers decide exactly how much “get it early” tax they’re willing to pay, and gives the money to the people that did 99% of the work.

    The simple reality is that if there are more people interested in a good at the current price than there are goods available, you must select a way to figure out who gets those scarce items. Raising prices and lotteries where you verify everyone participating is a distinct human are probably the most fair options.