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Cake day: June 18th, 2023

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  • Someone in Norway has the same name as me, and they made a PayPal account. They accidentally used my email during signup and I got some weird emails in Norwegian. So I called PayPal. I asked them to change the email. “You can’t, because it’s not your account, you just admitted”. Uh, ok. Can you close the account? “It’s not your account”. Can you contact the account owner and tell them to fix it? “We don’t have their email”. Can I use account recovery and close it? “Then you would be breaking into someone else’s account”.

    So what should I do? PayPal put a notice on the account in case they log in, and told me to just ignore the emails. I was baffled. Just ignore the emails? Stop sending them then! But there really isn’t anything I can do. I tried account recovery anyway, but it didn’t work.

    They never logged in I think. They probably made another account with the correct details and never thought about this one. So I’ve been getting the “our terms and conditions have changed” email once or twice a year and ignoring them. They’re still in Norwegian.

    I just looked it up, this has been going on since 2015. Maybe I should contact PayPal again and tell them how ridiculous they’ve been.









  • Define too long. I like videos of up to 20 minutes. That’s long to some people. Occasionally I’ll enjoy longer videos but almost always I think to myself “you could have said the same in a much shorter video”. If you’re coming up on an hour or more, you should really look at that script again. And I won’t even open the 4 hours bullshit rambling videos. Do people actually watch that or is it just on in the background?









  • I’m more saying that this is how some men talk themselves into hitting on someone in inappropriate situations, or (in their heads) blur the line without realizing. Missing signals isn’t only realizing years later that she was into you (a cliché story), but also “they’re just being friendly, it’s not flirting” (doesn’t get said enough)


  • I want to remind people of a different advice that similarly gets people into bad situations:

    “The worst that can happen, is they say no. Go shoot your shot”

    Yeah, that’s the worst that you think may happen. The worst that can happen is you misjudged the situation and now you’re making someone fear for their safety, and you’re a horrible creep in the eyes of anyone they talk to. You may get into trouble with your employer, friends, family, you really don’t know. And you only have yourself to blame. And don’t underestimate the effects of shame (as in: feeling guilty about something bad you did)

    I’m not saying flirting is never permissible, but you should set boundaries based on the perspective of the other as well. The advice “worst case, they say no” is not at all asking the question how the other would feel being approached in this way. They may have more to lose than you do